"Which came first, the crazy or the stupid?" It's the million-dollar question we all want the answer to. Are women crazy because men are stupid? Or are men stupid because women are crazy?" - from Women Are Crazy Men Are Stupid.
In Women are Crazy Men Are Stupid, the authors humorously cite a host of reasons why men and women in relationships have problems understanding and simply relating to each other. What better way to prove their theory (that women are crazy and mean are stupid) than to share tales from their own (at times) dysfunctional relationship- and readers, just in time for Valentine's Day
Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid: The Simple Truth to a Complicated Relationship by Howard J. Morris & Jenny Lee (Simon Spotlight Entertainment; September 2009: 978-1-4165-9505-2; US $22.99; hardcover)
About the Authors: Howard J. Morris began his career in TV, writing for the HBO series Dream On, and Home Improvement. He created the series Holding the Baby and In Case of Emergency. He has written for the TV shows My Wife and Kids, According to Jim and the Starter Wife.
Jenny Lee wrote for the TV series Samantha Who? and the Nickelodeon show The Troop. She is the author of three books of humor essays: Skinny Bitching, What Wendell Wants, and I Do. I Did. Now What?! Life After the Wedding Dress. Howard and Jenny live together in Los Angeles.
About the Book: Using their own crazy/stupid romance as an example, Howard Morris and Jenny Lee have devised a relationship guide that is honest, humorous and practical. The authors explore the method to his dumbness and the valid reasons behind her insanity while providing real solutions to relationship problems. By teaching men how and why they're stupid around women and showing women how to "control the crazy" for everybody's sake, this book helps couples to reach the place where giving isn't giving in, needing isn't needy, and where the sexes can break the dysfunctional patterns and find a way to live lovingly, happily ever after.
The Review: The question of which came first, the stupid or the crazy is quickly answered by Morris in chapter 1. It all started on the playground when boys discovered girls. How did the author show his love for his first crush? He pushed her into the mud and laughed at her. "And here our stupidity begins." I found myself agreeing. Yes! this is where women's craziness begins because (we learn) that this is what boys do when they like you. (Sorry Eric, Rick and Steve.....I had no idea!)
I laughed at how the author examines "boobs". Seventh grade boys discover girls now have boobs, and (on the same day) boobs actually make men dumb. According to Morris, the word boob has evolved to mean stupid man. "To paraphrase the great Al Cap: I have seen the boobs. And they is us." Point well made! Now look up here when you talk to me!
I can certainly relate to how men do not listen-that started way back when with my own father. But the author humorously sums it up when he says, "Men don't listen to women for various reasons. Most often it's because we just don't want to. It's confusing. And loud. And it takes so much concentration. It's like listening to a different language." Ha. Ha. Ha. Yes, I could relate to that - I figured that one out a loooong time ago.
Co-author Jenny Lee, my fellow crazy lady, does make some strong cases for "crazy" with regards to her role in the relationship with Morris. She admits to wanting "Yoko love", that is the kind of love that John Lennon had for Yoko Ono. An argument ensues about how it was this love that actually broke up the Beatles.
"So you are saying you'd be happy if I started a band, became world-famous with our music inspiring millions of people, and then I gave it all up for you while losing some of my best friends from childhood?" Morris says.
"I'm saying I'd find it romantic." Lee says.
"You are one crazy broad." Morris says.
"I know." Lee says.
This seemed like a conversation that a crazy high-school girl might have with her stupid jock boyfriend, not two rational adults in an adult relationship!
When I thought that was crazy, chapter 5 made more of a case for crazy women. Lee actually gets mad at Morris for having an affair, in her dream. "...she made herself wake up from this nightmare in the middle of it, so she could be angry at me in person and we could Deal with it together." Yeah, I think we have all had that dream about our significant other, but to actually get mad at him?? Lee also gets upset when celebrity couples break up. "I'm upset that Kimmel and Silverman broke up....what does that mean for us?" she says. I am not sure what it means for them, but for her to even equate the two relationships, she must be crazy!
To redeem herself, Lee gives some funny (and in the case of stupid men) valid directions for men and what not to do when they find themselves in certain circumstances. For example, when she is feeling sad and depressed, she recommends not "shooting her with Silly String, do not plastic wrap the toilet seat....do not push up the sides of her mouth and say, "Someone needs to turn that frown upside down. "
Amongst the sarcasm and jokes, Lee does give men some simple, sound advice that they can use in most all situations. According to her, it really all comes down to figuring out what women need and doing it for them. She goes on to simplify it by saying: "SUSS and FUSS. First, you suss out her emotional state (i.e. is she feeling fat? Really fat? Cranky? Sulky? Pouty? Pissy?) and then make a fuss over her (flowers, pancakes, balloons, or jewelry)!" Men, it really is that simple!
When I picked up this book, I did not expect to gain any new, insightful relationship advice. After all, the book is written by two comedy writers. I did expect to laugh through the book and relate to some of the couple's stupid verses crazy challenges, which I did, and for that, the book does not disappoint.
Buy It: Women are Crazy Men are Stupid is available on Amazon.com for $15.63.
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